Mastering Your Inner Critic…and 7 Other High Hurdles to Advancement: How the Best Women Leaders Practice Self-Awareness to Change What Really Matters

CHAPTER 8

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT

Hurdle: Making the Ask

The Big Question

How do I ask for what I want if it’s just for me?

The Big Lie

I can get what I want without directly asking because I am … (a hard worker, a good girl, always tending to others, etc.).

The Big Opportunity

Getting what we need and want for ourselves without feeling taken advantage of.

The Inner Critic at Work on Making the Ask

One-up: “He is so selfish, taking advantage of me and everyone around him yet again.”

One-down: “I won’t get what I want anyway, so why bother asking?”

What You Must Change to Run Over This Hurdle

• Build trust. The bedrock of getting what you want ...