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ABCs (Apologize, Build ego, and Clarify intent), 237–241

Absolutes, avoiding, 168–169

Acceptability as ego need, 234–235


building for, 60, 144–146

lack of, 4


assessing accuracy of thinking, 113–117

Discoverers and, 75

emotions and, 159

SEE skill (Surface your thinking, Examine your accuracy, Explore your understanding), 115–117, 118


deliberate acts, 29–31

reflecting, 208

thinking versus emotion and, 95

Advice, asking permission to give, 225


“fight” behaviors, 45–46

self-preservation ...

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