Wise Decisions

Index

• Action, taking, 133–134, 148–149
• Adolescent development, 86–87. See also Parenting teens
• Adversity, reframing, 95
• Advertising, television, 57
• Anam Cara (O'Donohue), 33
• Angelou, Maya, 77
• Anger over mistakes, 138
• Aperture, narrowing of, 130
• Arginine vasopressin, 17
• Arguments, 68
• Atrophy, 87, 95–96, 110, 128, 132
• Automatic decision‐making, 30
• Awareness. See also Conscious awareness
  • of emotions/feelings, 120–121
  • family story and, 95–96

• Balance, internal, 14–15, 18, 121, 131
• Basketball, shooting, 30
• Behave (Sapolsky), 86
• Beliefs:
  • core, 52, 115
  • truth versus, 141–142
• Best Moral Self (lens), 51, 115
• Best Self (lens), 51, 114–115, 148
• Bias:
  • confirmation, 4
  • conservation of energy, 109–110
  • eliminating, 146
• Biological sensitivity to context, 19–20
• Blocked messages, 25–26, 71
• Bogus facts, debunking, 59–60
• Bowling analogy, 23–24
• Brackett, Marc, 121, 122

• Care, 147
• Carlson, Richard, 133
• Car trouble, 68
• Cascade of poor decision‐making, 6–8
• Challenge and skills, balance between, 137
• Change, self‐directed, 155–156
• Chatter (Kross), 39
• Checklist, emotions/feelings, 124–125
• Children. See Parenting young children
• Child's memory, storage of, 79–80
• Choice overload, 2
• Chronic stress, 128
• Circumstances, facing “as is,” 137
• Coaching yourself from the third person, 123
• Cognitive dissonance, 4–5
• Cohen, Leonard, 94
• Command center:
  • access, blocking, 25–26
  • access, criteria for granting/blocking, 5
  • access, granting, 26–27
  • access, questions about granting/blocking, 42–43
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