Wise Decisions

Chapter 5Equipping Y.O.D.A. with the Right Stuff

You've been dating someone for nearly six months now and as the weeks pass, something about the relationship is putting doubts in your mind that are quite disturbing. You fell deeply in love almost from the very first moment and quickly started thinking this was the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. But now you are not so sure. Questions about his honesty, fidelity, and capacity to truly love another person keep surfacing.

He seems increasingly preoccupied with his own needs and less about yours. You are pretty certain he is about to propose marriage. You are uncertain about what you should say or do. And this is precisely where a properly trained Y.O.D.A. can be of immeasurable value.

Here are just a few more examples:

• You witnessed a person run a red light and end up in a terrible collision. There were several major injuries. You don't want to get involved but you feel you should report what you saw.
• You caught your best friend in a bald‐faced lie that was very hurtful to you. How should you handle it?
• Your boss asks you to do something clearly unethical. If you don't comply, you might lose your job.
• You've gotten yourself in the middle of a personal war on social media. You're not sure what to do or how to respond.
• Your husband wants your family to stay at your in‐laws' home for the holidays. You cannot stand them. How should you deal with this?
• Your father is beyond difficult. You do not know how to ...