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Instant Motivation by Chantal Burns

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Chapter 9

Beyond Identity

Step into your true nature

‘I must be willing to give up what I am, in order to become what I will be.’

Albert Einstein

From an early age, we’re taught who to be and how to be.

Until we are 1–2 years old we use our own name, for example ‘John hungry’ developing into ‘Me hungry’. As soon as we start using pronouns, self-concept and self-image is born. Identity creation starts very young.

We get given labels. We take on other people’s beliefs. We develop preferences. We learn certain values from parents and other authority figures.

I remember being told many things about my apparently ‘fixed’ personality traits from well-meaning teachers. I was told about my capability. And sometimes I listened. Sometimes I internalised ...

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