Never Go with Your Gut

CHAPTER 1

Shared Needs: Belonging and Differentiating

TAKE A MINUTE and ponder what elements of your life you cannot live without. Look at the things that make your life valuable—not your latest gadget or miracle cosmetic, but the essentials that would leave a marked void if they disappeared. Some go without saying, such as your most basic human needs: food, clothing, and shelter. In terms of human drives, what is your most basic need—the intangible equivalent of food, clothing, and shelter?

Regardless of whether your personality bends toward introverted or extroverted, regardless of whether your feelings about people make you a misanthrope or philanthropist, human companionship is a primary driver of human behavior. Companionship can be different ...