Chapter Twelve

Establish your rules of engagement

When we meet people and start building a relationship with them, we test one another and establish what I call our rules of engagement. There are people in our lives who complain to us, people who are supportive and friendly, people who always ask for advice, and people who have some huge problem that they need to talk about. These will establish themselves early, and often continue to play out until one of them grows tired of it or dies. Provocative Style offers you a way to set and maintain rules mindfully, with humour, leaving you with strong, fun and mutually supportive relationships.

Recall the list of patterned behaviour, hopefully just reading it reminds you of some people in your life ...

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