CONCLUSION: PULLING IT ALL TOGETHER
The key factor that protects resilient people from stress is that they don’t ruminate. Rumination is how we’ve defined stress in this book, and it provides the foundation for this book’s unique four-step process for developing resilience: waking up, controlling attention, becoming detached, and letting go.
The new approach to stress and resilience we’ve described has a number of significant advantages over conventional ideas about stress management:
- It resolves the problem of misattributing stress to events, which has the inevitable consequence of making people victims of what they experience. All that events do is offer people a theme to ruminate about, which they can choose not to do.
- Using physiological ...