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R Is for Relax

The first step in the REBLE program is to relax. A big part of this will involve cultivating some self-awareness. Before you can begin to read other people you have to know what your own body is saying. For example, when I was interrogating detainees in GTMO, do you think for one minute they would have given me information if I looked scared, incompetent, or dishonest? Remember that the only way to look confident is to feel confident. How is your body posture right now, as you are reading this book? Are you slouched over with your shoulders rolled inward and your chin down? Or do you have your chest puffed out, your shoulders back, and your chin up? Are you sitting with your ankles crossed, or with one leg crossed over the other ...

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