Equanimity develops as you train your mind, just as focus and clarity do. Equanimity is not something that you have full control over. Rather, you create the groundwork for equanimity to naturally arise in your life and in your experiences.
I described equanimity in Chapter 2, and I will expand on it more fully in this chapter. From an internal point of view, equanimity refers to accepting what is arising in your sensory experience without resisting or distorting it. For example, if you are angry, allow the sensations of anger to arise in your body—don't interfere with the feel, or the physical sensations associated with your emotions.
However, at no point should you act out of the anger (or other emotion), either verbally ...