Chapter 13

Be Compassionate

Compassion is rarely truly understood. It's often seen as weakness, something like a bleeding heart. And because it may be seen as a weakness, it is considered by some to have no place in leadership. But, in fact, this could not be further from the truth.

It takes great strength and courage to be compassionate. True compassion is deep caring without attachment. This is not the same as deep caring with detachment, which would imply an arm's-length relationship that does not touch you, where you could not feel the pain or get hurt in the process of caring. Rather, I am talking about caring deeply but not being attached to the outcome.

Consider for a moment how difficult that actually is. You care deeply about a person, ...

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