The Rules to Break, 2nd Edition

RULE TO BREAK

“Some people just get to you”

You must know certain people who have a habit of making you angry, or upset, or depressed. Even the people who mostly make you feel great can occasionally make you feel bad.

It’s a very common expression: ‘He makes me so cross’, or ‘She always makes me feel inadequate’, or ‘He makes me feel guilty’. So common that almost everyone believes it. But we’re not all so malleable that we’re just victims – pawns in someone else’s game. People can behave in ways that make a certain response seem easier, but you don’t have to get stuck in that initial reaction. As you’ll see, this is an extension of the previous Rule.

If you don’t want to feel a particular way, just don’t feel it. I know that’s far easier ...