TRUTH 12 You’re guilty until you prove you’re innocent

If you go to a cocktail party and meet a dark-complexioned woman who is dressed in a sari and speaks with a heavy accent, it is perfectly normal and socially acceptable to ask, “Where are you from?” Or say you go to a dinner party and meet a handsome man. After you subtly shift your eyes to his left hand, you note that he isn’t wearing a wedding band (and you’re single and looking). You might be tempted to ask, “Are you married?” If a woman you meet at church is wearing a charm bracelet with pictures of her children or grandchildren, you could take that as an invitation to ask her about her family.

Asking those questions in social situations aren’t necessarily landmine moments. But asking ...

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