Whole Leaders, Wild Trust

CHAPTER 15Supported: Move from Solo to Surrounded

The whole and trusted leader is never fully alone. They are actively seeking to be surrounded—by people who offer support, speak the truth in love, and care deeply in real time.

Becoming a whole and trusted leader is not a solo pursuit. We cannot do this alone. The presence—or absence—of strategic support directly shapes how much we trust ourselves and how much others trust us. When we’re surrounded by people who will catch us when we fall, confront us when we drift, and celebrate us when we rise, we begin to operate with deeper clarity, confidence, and courage. That kind of foundation fosters real self-trust—not the kind rooted in ego or achievement, but in the deep knowing that we’re not alone in this work.

And here’s the opportunity: being surrounded not only builds our own trust in ourselves—it also builds others’ trust in us. People are drawn to leaders who are willing to stay open, admit they don’t have all the answers, and receive support from others. Why? Because those leaders aren’t hiding. They aren’t pretending to be invincible. When we live with that kind of vulnerability and connection, our trustworthiness becomes tangible. Whole leaders aren’t just competent—they’re connected.

So, let me ask you: what would change in your life if you were truly surrounded by cheerleaders, mentors, and people who give it to you straight? I’ve asked that question of leaders in every industry, and the answer is often the same: “Everything.” ...