Did you decide to go for a run last week but kept putting it off? Do you have every intention to cut down the amount of hours you work and spend more time with family? Perhaps you keep promising yourself that you’re going to finally make a date to meet up with old friends. Did you fail to keep your good intentions? Did you feel guilty about it?

Guilt’s purpose isn’t to make you feel bad just for the sake of it. Like so many other emotions, guilt is a helpful emotional warning sign; its purpose is to let you know when you’ve done something wrong. Guilt helps you to examine what you did or didn’t do; you compare how you behaved with how you ...

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