It Starts with Passion, 2nd Edition

CHAPTER 20Letting go of expectations

Too often we focus our attention on actually achieving the goal, the end result, only to become frustrated by the slow progress we make. Think about the last time you went on a diet. You were focused, diligent and committed, you ate right, exercised right and you had the right discipline, but when you weighed yourself at the end of the week you felt like there was so much more to do. So you saddle up again for another perfect week — and the same result. You lose weight but never as much as you hoped for, so you become susceptible to doubt about the value of what you are doing.

As I explained in chapter 18, a goal can bring the best out in you but it can also be destructive, when people become obsessed with a goal to the point of needing it to happen so badly that it actually eludes them. If you worry too much about achieving the goal, you subconsciously send a message that you actually don’t have confidence that it will come true. If you are confident, it will come true. Believe you are deserving of the goal and know you are capable of achieving it, then all you need do is take the appropriate action and let the universe manifest the right result for you.

The key to achieving your targets comes down to focusing on your goal (having it at the top of your mind) but not worrying about achieving it or giving it too much attention. Once you have set your goal and it’s aligned to your driving values, let it go. Let go of your worry about whether ...