A 33-year-old artist sat across from me talking about his relationship with a wonderful and supportive partner noting “when I am tired I am guaranteed I am going to wake up in a bad mood; anything anyone says is going to make me snap and say something nasty. I can hold it back in a social situation. It is still there but I can turn it off. It is awful and I hate feeling angry. If she asks me to do something it really irks me. I know it shouldn't. Even when I have got that voice of rationality in my head, the overwhelming emotion is so strong.” He looked up sheepishly and seemed to acknowledge what he had to change.
Let's start with a basic statement about anger: anger is normal. The artist is demonstrating a normal ...