IntroductionThe Law of Requisite Variety1 The world as we know it is our own social construction2 We possess the capability to reconstruct our meanings3 We can be authors of our social identities4 We can change our emotional state at will5 We can model excellence of capability in others6 We can design and operationalize our future self7 We can regress backwards through time to change meaning systems8 We all possess the resources to manage any of our problems9 Be curious not judgemental10 Rapport is the key to social success11 Uptime and downtime12 COACH versus CRASH stateConcluding thoughtsReferences