Rules of Everything

RULE 10

Forgive and don’t forget

Who are you still angry with, or maybe just quietly seething about below the surface? Who is it that you don’t want to let off the hook, don’t want to accept their explanations, don’t think deserves to be forgiven? They need to be punished for what they’ve done to you, or to the people you love, and you need to go on being angry or bitter or resentful towards them. Maybe your mother or father were terrible parents, perhaps your business partner cheated you, maybe your child never visits you, or your partner had an affair.

Some people hold many grudges and some have just one or two major ones. It’s tempting to feel that so long as you bear a grudge, or continue to apportion blame, or keep reliving the hurt, you ...