Rules of Life, The, 4th Edition

RULE 54

You are not in charge

Sorry if this comes as a shock but you’re not in charge – no matter how much you want to be, no matter how much you think you are, no matter how much you deserve to be. If you are not in charge, it doesn’t mean anybody else is either. We may all be on the same runaway train with no driver or there may indeed be a driver (the driver may be insane, drunk or asleep but that’s another thing entirely).

Once you accept that you are not in charge, you can let go of so much stuff. It’s very liberating. Instead of complaining, ‘Why isn’t it like this?’ you can accept it isn’t and let it go. Instead of metaphorically bashing your head against a metaphoric brick wall, you can walk away whistling with your hands in your pockets ...