Rules of Life, The, 4th Edition

RULE 3

Like yourself

One of the Rules is that you need to accept yourself (see Rule 4). But if you want to be truly happy you have to go one better. Yep, you have to actually like yourself.

Some of us have no problem with this, in which case you can skip on to the next Rule. But most of us struggle with it at least sometimes. To begin with, you have to want to like yourself. It’s no good feeling that you shouldn’t like yourself, that this would make you vain or arrogant or self-centred. It can be a tough call, but you have to break down any psychological, religious, cultural or self-creating feeling that you don’t deserve to like yourself.

Listen, this isn’t about thinking you’re a fabulous person without any faults. It’s about being relaxed ...