Chapter . Tip #19: Listen to Yourself

One of the many ways that our thoughts influence how we feel and behave is through the things we say to ourselves. These internal conversations are the mechanisms that allow us to bring to consciousness the appraisals we make and the expectations we have. The statements we make to ourselves precede, accompany, or follow the things we feel and are directly linked to them. If you believe that criticism is negative, then it is a sure thing that when you are being criticized, you are talking negatively to yourself.

''This is worse than I thought,'' ''When will he be finished?'' ''He's going to fire me next''—statements that probably sound familiar to you—are common statements that people say to themselves when ...

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