Appendix 1
Useful assertive phrases and quick responses
Sometimes when you find yourself in a difficult situation it is not easy to think of the assertive thing to say. Here are a few ready-made responses and requests that might come in useful at some time:
- I find that remark offensive.
- I find your behaviour unacceptable.
- That’s not like you to say something so mean/cruel/hurtful.
- I’m sorry you feel like that.
- I can see how you might think that.
- I don’t understand – can you clarify that?
- That’s an interesting question.
- I prefer not to answer.
- I’ll bear that in mind.
- Where do we differ?
- I’m not sure what you mean.
- Point taken.
- No, I’m sorry, I can’t.
- I’m afraid it won’t be possible to …
- I would like to help, unfortunately …
- That doesn’t ...