OWNING YOUR FEELINGS
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Being let down by a friend, seeing your partner behave badly at a social occasion or being yelled at because you made a mistake at work. These kinds of situations all have feelings attached to them. How might you feel in any of those situations? Disappointed, embarrassed, upset? Hurt and angry?
And if you want to tell the other person how you felt, what would you say? Would you say ‘You embarrassed/hurt/upset me’? ‘You made me angry’?
Responding in this way suggests that other people and circumstances are responsible for your emotions. Not so. You create your emotions. And everyone else creates their own emotions.
Blaming someone else can be a ...
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