LISTENING FOR FEELINGS
If speaking is silver, then listening is gold. – Turkish proverb
Contrary to what you may think, listening is not a passive process, it’s an active process. You need to put aside distractions and pay attention in order to really understand what someone is saying and what they really mean. And when it comes to emotional intelligence, as well as listening to someone tell you what they think, what they’ve done or are going to do, etc., you need to be listening out for feelings.
Imagine, for example, that a friend has told you a long story about his manager’s unreasonable behaviour. If you’ve been listening closely, your response might be, ‘It sounds like you felt humiliated by your boss. I get a sense that you feel she’s ...
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