CHAPTER 9

BREAKING FREE OF THE PAST ONE THOUGHT AT A TIME

People’s reality consists of their thoughts passing through their mind. A series of ideas, invented conversations, blessings, accusations, and monologues are racing though their mind at warp speed. A good portion of the time they are not even aware the stories exist. They play a huge role in how people see life and how they relate to others. The stories create both a person’s joy and their desperation in life in general and in relationships in particular.

It is those internal thoughts, those stories, and the interpretations of those stories that people attach to the external events in their lives that give meaning to those events and relationships. Two individuals in the same circumstances ...

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