RULE 13

If you can’t trust them, you haven’t got a relationship

Trust is an absolute essential between partners. It doesn’t matter whether you’re talking about being faithful, sticking to promises, keeping spending within what you can afford, or anything else. If you can’t trust your partner, you’ll never be happy.

Of course, there are lots of reasons why you can’t trust someone. Maybe they have a track record of being untrustworthy. Maybe you just have hunches. Maybe they didn’t tell the truth about some small things and you wonder what else they weren’t entirely honest about. Maybe they are just a bit shifty (although in that case I’m not sure why you’re with them at all and might I respectfully suggest you move on pronto). It doesn’t matter. ...

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