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The Rules of Love, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 25

Put each other first

I know a couple who decided to seize an opportunity to build themselves a house, and he took charge of the work. Halfway through the process, she decided – for entirely valid reasons I won’t go into – that she wasn’t at all sure she wanted to live in it when it was complete. He, on the other hand, had put a great deal of effort into it and didn’t want to waste it.

Now at this point, a lot of couples would have fallen out badly. But not these two. What was their approach? He said that if she really didn’t want to live there they wouldn’t. Meanwhile she took the approach that as he’d put in so much work, she would at least live there for a year or so and then they could sell if she really hated it. So that was their ...

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