RULE 20

Be nice

You’ve had a long and tiring day. In fact it’s been a difficult week. You get home grumpy and irritable and you need someone to take it out on. Who’s there to oblige? Your partner of course. Always available and it’s not surprising you’re feeling snappy, so what do they expect?

What they might expect is that you’d treat them nicely. If it was a friend standing there as you walked through the door, you’d manage to find it in you to be polite to them, so why not your partner? After all, they should be the most important person in the world to you, so why don’t they get the best treatment?

It’s so easy to use your partner as a handy sponge to absorb all your angst and to vent your spleen on. But that doesn’t make it right. I’ve ...

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