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The Rules of Love, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 22

Allow your partner the space to be themselves

After a few months or years together, couples can settle down into a ‘couple personality’ which is greater than the sum of its parts. You do things together, you socialize together, you find shared interests to follow together.

This is all very lovey-dovey and sweet, but it ignores the fact that you are also separate people. It doesn’t matter how much you had in common when you met, your partner has some interests separate from yours. Maybe you met through a passionate hobby and you both want to devote most of your free time to yachting or dog walking or stamp collecting. But even so, you may want to concentrate on different aspects of it,* or there may be other lesser interests too.

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