RULE 30

You want to do what?

You’ve already agreed to give your partner the space to be themselves (see Rule 22).* That’s because you thought they wanted an evening with their best mate, or to branch off into a different aspect of stamp collecting, or to fiddle about with their camera.

Now you discover that their best mate is the opposite sex, or their stamp collecting foray means going away to a convention for a week, or they want to sell the camera and buy a much more expensive one. Or maybe they want to give up their steady job and enrol on a course for two years while you support the family, or take a job that will mean spending a week every month away from home.

Now hang on. That’s not what you signed up for when you got yourself into ...

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