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The Rules of Love, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 33

Let them have the last word

So, you’re having a discussion, a chat, a debate, or a downright argument. You’ve both finished and everything that needs to be said has been said (and probably a bit more besides). So, why not just stop talking? In theory it’s possible for you both to stop at the same time, but somehow it’s more difficult to achieve in practice. So how about you stop first?

Most of us find this very hard to do. I guess we think that if we let the other person have the last word without responding to them, we’re implying that they’re right and we know we’re beaten.

Hold on. That’s only true if we’re in some sort of competition, where we’re trying to score points off each other and win some kind of (petty) victory. That’s ...

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