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The Rules of Love, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 98

If you don’t like their partner, tough

Here’s a Rule that lots of people find really difficult. You have this great friend who you love being around, and then they get together with someone you really don’t like. Maybe their new partner is just unpleasant or perhaps they treat your friend badly in your view. Your friend, of course, can’t see it. They just want their best friend and their partner to get on together. What do you do?

Boy, have I seen friendships stumble over this one. It’s so tempting to tell your friend exactly what you think, and to urge them to leave this new lover. And lots of people do. But it’s not the answer. Why not? Because it’s actually none of your business. And because they’re very likely to dump you instead ...

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