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What To Do If...?
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What To Do If...?

by Anne-Maartje Oud
February 2026
Beginner to intermediate
288 pages
5h 42m
English
Kogan Page
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CHAPTER EIGHTEEN What to do if someone is belittling me?

If you’ve ever been belittled, you know how uncomfortable it feels. Even when you realize the comments are unfair, they can still make you feel small, inadequate and dismissed. Belittling shows up in various ways – through dismissive remarks, disregard for your thoughts or feelings or actions that subtly undermine your confidence and abilities. It’s not just in the words used but also in the tone and nonverbal cues, like eye-rolling or smirking.

I once had a conversation with a professor and brought up two conflicting theories I had come across and wanted to hear his opinion about. His response initially made me crumble. ‘But, sweetie,’ he said (he actually said ‘maar meisje’ in Dutch, ...

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ISBN: 9781398626171