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Managing to Make a Difference by Larry Sternberg

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Chapter 69Develop Yourself

No human being ever actualizes his or her full potential outside of the right relationships. Parenting, mentoring, and coaching exemplify the kinds of relationships that can help shape a person and lead to significant growth. So how does self-development fit in?

Each of us matures at our own pace. But whatever the pace, as we mature, we assume more and more responsibility for the outcomes in our lives. Younger or less experienced people often benefit from the mentoring and coaching of people who see their potential and decide to invest in it. By the time you are an adult, you should assume some responsibility for investing in your own potential. Mentors and others can help you with this, but you must be an active participant in the process. For example:

  1. A mentor can get you involved with a variety of activities and assignments to help you discover your aptitudes and interests. But you must enthusiastically engage.
  2. A mentor can ask what you are passionate about and can help you pursue those passions in ways that contribute to your growth. But your passions must arise from your heart. Your mentor is not responsible for installing them.
  3. A mentor can help you ideate about various career arcs, but you must own your goals and your path.
  4. A mentor may see something in you and choose to invest. But, as you mature, your responsibility increases for seeing something you can learn from a mentor and initiating that relationship yourself.

Mentors exert a great ...

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