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6.5.6 What you shouldn’t do when a participant fails
Commiserate. When participants fail, your fi rst reaction may be to
make them feel better. It’s very tempting to say, “I can see why that
was hard.” It’s also tempting to nod your head in vigorous agreement
when participants say things like, “Wow, that took forever,” or “That
was really confusing.” Our advice is not to commiserate. Acknowl-
edge that you heard and understood the comment, perhaps with a
little nod, and say, “OK” or “Mm hmm.”
Tell a white lie. You may also be tempted to reduce the impact of
failure by telling a “white lie,” such as, ...