100Requesting Better Meeting Manners from a Coworker
STRATEGY
You're not your organization's meeting monitor. The only times you should address this issue are when it's your direct report who's being rude, or when a peer's rudeness at a meeting has an impact on your work. Be direct and explain why the behavior hurt you. Your peer will respond with an excuse for their behavior, truthful or not. Always act as if the excuse is true and remark that it was out of character, whether it was or wasn't. Provide them with a solution for future meetings and hint that the behavior was so egregious that it couldn't help but be noticed by others.
TACTICS
Attitude: Be direct and specific. Frame this as a personal issue, if you can. Explain that you didn't get the support and attention that you deserved or expected.
Preparation: Have a response ready for every possible excuse or rationalization. Each response should lead to the same solution, which is that your coworker should have acted differently.
Timing: Have this conversation as soon after the meeting as is possible.
Behavior: Have this conversation in person if at all possible. Feel free to go to your coworker's office. That will reinforce the harm you've experienced.
ADAPTATIONS
This script can be modified to:
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