Lifescripts, 3rd Edition

91Refusing to Lie for a Coworker

STRATEGY

When a coworker asks you to lie, chances are it's to avoid getting in hot water with the boss for something they did—or didn't do. Since you don't want to get a reputation as a liar or appear to be a partner in crime—both of which could jeopardize your job— the goal of this script is to make clear to your peer that you won't lie, without coming off as condescending or holier‐than‐thou. Basically, you're walking a tight rope between maintaining good relations with your coworker and your supervisor. If this is the first time the coworker has asked for your “help” you can lean a little to her side of the tightrope. If this is clearly a habitual problem lean toward your supervisor's side. But if this incident falls somewhere between unique and habitual you'll have to try to strike a balance.

TACTICS

• Attitude: Whether it's the first time or the fiftieth they've asked you to cover for them, stand firm. Don't lose your temper or belittle them for screwing up. If it's the first time they have come to you, tell them you'll maximize the reasons for their behavior when relating the story to your supervisor and leave it at that. If they appear to be falling into a pattern of bad behavior and subsequently asking you to lie, calmly point out they'd better try to change their behavior. If they're clearly a habitual offender, despite your prior warnings to them, feel free to bluntly convey your annoyance, saying in no uncertain terms that lying is ...