
9
Listen and look for what’s
not being said
CONVERSATIONS ALWAYS TAKE PLACE in three dimensions
– through thoughts, feelings and behaviour. To be a truly
effective coach, you need to ‘converse’ at all three levels.
This means that as well as listening to what people say,
you will need to ensure you focus on what they are thinking
and become sensitive to how they are feeling. Even though
you may not realise it, these three levels of conversation are
occurring at the same time.
The levels
The three-dimension conversation model, illustrated in
the figure overleaf, shows how we all interact and converse
on three separate levels.