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The Rules of Love, 3rd Edition
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The Rules of Love, 3rd Edition

by Richard Templar
November 2015
Intermediate to advanced
288 pages
5h 8m
English
Pearson Education Limited
Content preview from The Rules of Love, 3rd Edition

RULE 9

You can’t change people

Suppose you’re naturally tidy. I mean really neurotically tidy. Can’t stand to leave the washing up for later and always put away everything immediately after use. And imagine you ended up with a partner who liked to spread their possessions about and actually only felt comfortable with clutter. Would you become a messy person to keep them happy? Then why would you expect them to become tidy?

If you’re not actually tidy you might be wondering what the problem would be, but if you’re one of nature’s tidy people you’ll probably be thinking that would be a struggle, and an unreasonable request. And you’d be right.

The fact is that you can’t ask people to change, and even if they wanted to they couldn’t do it. Sure, ...

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ISBN: 9781292085890