The Rules of Love, 3rd Edition

RULE 107

Other people are where it’s at

We’ve come to the end of Rules for everyone, and this Rule is a biggie. I don’t know that many people who have really grasped this, but I do know a few who understand it instinctively. It was one of them who unwittingly taught it to me.

I was going through a really bad time after someone very close to me died. A friend of mine was hugely supportive, which was an achievement in itself as she has a very stressful life. She has three young children, two of whom have haemophilia which is frequently time consuming and always a huge worry. The third was, at this time, a small baby so my friend was always tired. And then she had a real blow: the doctors thought her husband had a terminal illness. And yet despite ...