Brilliant Positive Psychology

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for their qualities is not enough; loving and valuing them include

the gift of really seeing someone, their strengths as well as their

weaknesses.

brilliant

insight

Listening to ten minutes of a couple’s conversation is enough for

relationship expert John Gottman to say accurately who are destined for

the divorce courts, just by listening to how they speak to and about each

other. His research shows that for a flourishing relationship there need to

be five positives to every negative. The hurt caused by negative emotions

such as criticism, anger or hostility is ...