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Beliefs should be questioned in two ways:
1 In relation to the adversity. Is the belief realistic? Is this the
only interpretation of the evidence?
2 The consequent mood change. Is the emotional response
out of proportion to the belief? When this is the case the
belief may be an iceberg,
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and underneath the surface is a
more powerful hidden belief. This core belief may represent
a core value, something that is a fundamental part of what
matters most to you. See Chapters 4 and 7.
Understanding this basic principle, that our interpretation of events
affects how we feel, is at the heart of