Find the best in everybody. Wait long enough, and people will surprise and impress you. It might even take years, but people will show you their good side.
Just keep waiting.
Here’s the final paradox in helping a pessimist or a victim: People change faster when they don’t need to. If I’m sitting with you and in my eyes and in my heart you’re perfect the way you are, you now have more freedom to change. You now have a sense of safety and peace and openness to change.
If my wife walks in and says, “I think I’m going to go on a diet,” And I say, “Thank goodness!” that’s not going to go over well. I may say I’m only being supportive, but you know it’s headed south. What would be the best thing I could ...