Partners Soothe

Imagine you are the parent of a small child who wakes up in the middle of the night frightened by a bad dream. In tears, the child comes into your bedroom. What would you do and say? The answer is easy—you would model bravery and confidence; you would carefully listen without judgment; and you would offer great empathy as you seek to calm and encourage. The principles used for a small child with a bad dream are the same for protégés in a state of anxiety.

Scared protégés feel victimized in some way. The source of the fear may vary. We all have our hot-button triggers hardwired to early experiences and learnings, albeit sometimes causing irrational beliefs. Regardless of what’s driving the protégé’s sense of victimization, the ...

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