
122 brilliant stress management
will usually nd the solution rst; the one who is most exible
in their behaviour will get what they want; and the one who is
most exible in their response to change will feel that they are
in control. Flexibility is about creating choices and is what stops
determination becoming obsession. To be exible, you need to
be able to step back from a challenge, see it objectively, and
then nd a wide range of options. The process to SCOPE a
problem that you read in Chapter 5 will help you to step back,
but sometimes you need more resources. Give yourself time,
refresh yourself with a walk in the open air, consult ...