While a healthy curiosity on the part of the coach animates the conversation, the coach must remain clear that the conversation isn’t for the coach’s benefit. This seems obvious, but when the coach is interested in the client’s story (and clients are inherently fascinating), it’s easy to get wrapped up in just pursuing that story, even when it leads into areas that aren’t relevant to the coaching. The mindful Investigator stays present with this inquiry, designing questions that tap into the client’s curiosity, so that the client begins to drive the discovery process.
A second mindfulness consideration is that a coach may be attached to his social identity as a brilliant question asker. It’s fun to ask questions ...

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