Begin Appreciation with Listening

As fundamental as it might seem, the best thing that you can do to show others you respect them and consider them worthwhile is to reach out, listen, and learn. Professors Suresh Srivastva and Frank Barrett of Case Western University underscored this point in their writings on executive integrity:

[It is] not the content of the exchange that is central but the experience of being taken in and heard, which not only affirms the legitimacy of one's way of looking at the world but then allows one to begin letting go of some defensiveness because the experience of affirmation increases one's capacity to affirm others.14

This means that you must not simply articulate your own philosophy. You must also listen to the ...

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