RULE 12

Spots don’t change

Each of us is a unique concoction of our genes, our upbringing, our experiences. None of these are things we can change. And together these ingredients make us the extraordinary, unique people we are today.

Now, I don’t know if you’re much of a cook, but if you were to put together eggs, self-raising flour, butter and sugar, you’d pretty much get a cake of some sort.3 There’s not a lot you can do about that. If you’d wanted an omelette, say, you shouldn’t have put the sugar in (or indeed the flour, and most of the butter). If you’re working with a preset group of ingredients, you don’t have much room for manoeuvre.

This is just as true of people. They are what they are. A given set of genes, along with a particular ...

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