RULE 49
Not everyone wants help
This group of Rules has been about how to help other people. But it doesn’t hurt to point out that just because you can help someone, that doesn’t automatically mean you should. This isn’t always easy, because often you know that you can make a real difference in some way.
Look, it’s not just about the difference your actions make. It’s also about the way it makes the other person feel. Very often your help can be the thing that makes someone feel cared about, loved, worthwhile, grateful, wanted, that they can cope. And sometimes not.
There are other things they might feel instead of – or as well as – those things. They might feel patronised, belittled, helpless, childlike, beholden. They don’t want those feelings. ...
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